You can speak honestly about your feelings without needing to protect everyone else from them. You can explore your doubts, fears, needs, hopes, and limits. You can begin to understand what belongs to the relationship, what belongs to your own history, where and how you would like to focus your therapy work, and what may need to happen next.

You do not resonate with everyone you meet, and this is also true when you meet a therapist. The relationship itself matters. The way a therapist listens, responds, explains their work, and creates a sense of safety can make a significant difference to how your therapy unfolds.

Emotional neglect is often difficult to name because it is about absence. The absence of warmth. The absence of comfort. The absence of delight. The absence of repair. The absence of attention. The absence of emotional responsiveness. You may have been fed, clothed, educated, and provided for. But emotionally, you may still have been alone.

You might delay replying. You might tell yourself you will answer later. You might feel tired before anything has even happened. You might begin thinking through everything that could go wrong. Then, perhaps, you criticise yourself. Why am I like this? Why can’t I just enjoy people? Why do ordinary friendships feel like so much work?

Job loss counselling can help you make room for the emotional impact of losing work and everything that has meant to you, while also supporting you to begin thinking about what comes next.

Many mothers are told, “Don’t take it personally.” There may be some truth in that. Adolescents are often caught in their own developmental struggle. Their moods, reactions, and distancing are not always a fair reflection of who you are or what you have given. But it can still feel personal.