These people are the first to notice the distress in others, and quickly. They sense what needs doing. They don't hesitate to move towards the problem. They become useful, helpful. Capable. Needed.

Anger is not automatically bad. Anger is information, and energy Anger can be protective. Anger can show us that something matters. The idea is not to get rid of anger. The work is to understand it, listen to it carefully, and learn how to respond without harming yourself or others.

You might delay replying. You might tell yourself you will answer later. You might feel tired before anything has even happened. You might begin thinking through everything that could go wrong. Then, perhaps, you criticise yourself. Why am I like this? Why can’t I just enjoy people? Why do ordinary friendships feel like so much work?

Starting a business and self-doubt often sit close together. This does not mean you are not capable. It may mean you are doing something that asks more of your nervous system than you expected.

Imposter syndrome in business can feel especially strong because business asks us to be seen. You may need to talk about your work. You have to be able to name what you offer. To set prices. To share ideas. To make decisions. To receive feedback.

Understanding narcissistic process: Beneath the self-importance lies vulnerability. Approach with empathy, set boundaries, & foster growth.