Day 283/366 days Towards Self-Mastery.
Poise? It sounds like an old-fashioned word and an old-fashioned notion. When I think of poise I think of grace. I think of moving through the world with clarity, confidence and ease.
"The only way to become truly at ease with ourselves is by knowing who we are," says Sarah, and I would completely agree.
Recently a client said he felt a tad selfish by making decisions and choices that met his needs first, which meant he had to tell a few people that he was unable to continue to provide services to them. He wanted more time to himself.
Culturally we are schooled that it's proper to put others before ourselves. I would also agree with this, with the proviso that there's a right time and place for both sentiments.
You cannot give from an empty cup, so if you find that your cup is constantly running dry, you have very little in your life that fills it up, trust me, your help is not filling someone else's cup.
Take the time to fill your own cup, and set your life up in such a way that you continue to replenish your own resources, so that the people you then serve will get the full benefit of you at your very best.
When your cup is full you become more relaxed, take more care with your grooming and with your environment, eat better, sleep better, love and care for others better. Your thoughts are more coherent. You're more able to speak your mind and share your ideas and thoughts.
And all of this creates that elusive quality we call poise.
366 days Towards Self-Mastery
When I considered my New Year's intentions for 2020 I had just one: To allow my heart to love what it loved...and let it lead me. (If not now, then when?)
I've spent months working on integrating my life. To live life more fully with my home life, my interests, my work, my responsibilities, all coming together, all connected. I want to give each the attention that they desire and need, and still have time and energy for the others. That means living and working from the heart.
As I was clearing out my bookshelf over the Christmas break I discovered Simple Abundance. I set it aside to explore it on New Year's Day as I lazed through another delicious day of nothingness. Sarah, the author, says this book is about living in grace. Living in grace I realised, is about Self-Mastery.
My thirst for understanding the human condition has driven me all my life, and hand-in-hand with self-mastery it has been a life-long goal. And seeing as I love to write, that living in grace is about self-mastery, and I love a bit of a challenge, then if I am truly going to let my heart lead, I really don't have any other choice. So scary as it feels, I'm starting out on a daily mission of leaning into the suggestions of this daybook and making a daily post to keep me accountable. If not now, then when?
I'm Josie. You can find out a little more about me here.
Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy: by Sarah Ban Breathnach.
This book is written for the Australian and NZ market because it refers to seasonal changes. It's available on Amazon here if you'd like to follow along.