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  • Writer's pictureJosie Coco

Perpetuating helplessness

Day 213/366 days Towards Self-Mastery.

Anyone who has experienced a difficult or traumatic childhood is likely to find themselves in a perpetual soup of helplessness.

Helplessness finds its way into our procedural memory and surfaces as our operating programme.

Some of the symptoms might be worrying a lot, or ruminating on the worst case scenario. Despairing when things don't turn out as you expected. Not being able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Critical self-talk.

When I woke up to the fact that I always prepared for the worst case scenario it made sense to me that this is what I was always receiving and dealing with.

Unified Field Theory and expanding research into neurobiology begin to explain to us how we perpetuate the scenarios that we focus on. Hormones and nerve impulses respond to the minds commands and continue to create in us the biology and physiology of despair and helplessness.

To rise above this situation we need to begin to observe our patterns of being in the world. Sometimes very difficult to do alone, it doesn't hurt to get help from a trusted other who will contain a safe space and share honestly your impact on them. We act as a mirror to each other. We are wired to be relational, community-oriented beings. We learn from each other and we heal each other.

Helplessness has been my most significant underlying driver. Discovering this insight is like finding gold when it comes to tuning my life to the frequency that I want to experience.

Being immersed in a field of helplessness for a long period of time leads to self-isolation and loss of health-giving social connections. Each small step towards reconnecting is an important step towards healing.

Reach for the magnificence you feel in your heart is possible. Once you've expressed your intention every step will lead you there. Take it slowly, be patient, allow life to unfold and show you the way.


Simple Abundance

366 days Towards Self-Mastery

When I considered my New Year's intentions for 2020 I had just one: To allow my heart to love what it loved...and let it lead me. (If not now, then when?)

I've spent months working on integrating my life. To live life more fully with my home life, my interests, my work, my responsibilities, all coming together, all connected. I want to give each the attention that they desire and need, and still have time and energy for the others. That means living and working from the heart.

As I was clearing out my bookshelf over the Christmas break I discovered Simple Abundance. I set it aside to explore it on New Year's Day as I lazed through another delicious day of nothingness. Sarah, the author, says this book is about living in grace. Living in grace I realised, is about Self-Mastery.

My thirst for understanding the human condition has driven me all my life, and hand-in-hand with self-mastery it has been a life-long goal. And seeing as I love to write, that living in grace is about self-mastery, and I love a bit of a challenge, then if I am truly going to let my heart lead, I really don't have any other choice. So scary as it feels, I'm starting out on a daily mission of leaning into the suggestions of this daybook and making a daily post to keep me accountable. If not now, then when?

I'm Josie. You can find out a little more about me here.

Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy: by Sarah Ban Breathnach.

This book is written for the Australian and NZ market because it refers to seasonal changes. It's available on Amazon here if you'd like to follow along.


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