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  • Writer's pictureJosie Coco

The confidence to commit to your style emerges with authenticity

Day 90/366 days Towards Self-Mastery. Mood: anticipation

Don't you love those elderly fashionistas? IconAccidental, and Sara Jane Adams / mywrinklesaremystripes are my favourites!

Style. It's something I've pondered for decades. The confusion set in with trying to match my style with the current fashion styles. Those trends come and go, but my unique style really hasn't changed since my twenties.

Todays inspiration is about noticing your style.

With this time you have at home you might feel inspired to look at the items in your wardrobe and decide which ones really reflect your style.

Experimenting with a few different styles has meant that I have an eclectic mix of designs and colours. Not all of them inspire me. Only a few of them are close to anything that I would call my style. Removing the really offensive pieces has been a blessed relief!

In my twenties I was still sewing my own clothing. The current vogue magazine was an endless source of inspiration, propelling me to the design table armed with sketches and images to work into a manageable pattern.

Then off to the fabric store to find the perfect texture and weight of fabric to lovingly shape into a stunning masterpiece. Flowing, flamboyant and free fitting; it's a style that I still love today.

Precisely shaping a piece for my figure to maximise my desired effect, lengthening my torso, pencil line skirt to give me height, I'm loving the loose fitting funky styles that are available today and can't wait to recraft my wardrobe sometime in the future.

As we become more comfortable with our authenticity we become more comfortable with our style. It's about not caring what other's think and marching to our own drum.

Until we reach into that authenticity, until we really know ourselves, we've always got someone else's opinion driving our choices.

That's not confidence making. Quite the contrary. That's what creates the confusion, the comparing, the discomfort and the pull to look to fashion trends to try to fit in.


366 days Towards Self-Mastery

When I considered my New Year's intentions for 2020 I had just one: To allow my heart to love what it loved...and let it lead me. (If not now, then when?) I've spent months working on integrating my life. To live life more fully with my home life, my interests, my work, my responsibilities, all coming together, all connected. I want to give each the attention that they desire and need, and still have time and energy for the others. That means living and working from the heart.

As I was clearing out my bookshelf over the Christmas break I discovered Simple Abundance. I set it aside to explore it on New Year's Day as I lazed through another delicious day of nothingness. Sarah, the author, says this book is about living in grace. Living in grace I realised, is about Self-Mastery.

My thirst for understanding the human condition has driven me all my life, and hand-in-hand with self-mastery it has been a life-long goal. And seeing as I love to write, that living in grace is about self-mastery, and I love a bit of a challenge, then if I am truly going to let my heart lead, I really don't have any other choice. So scary as it feels, I'm starting out on a daily mission of leaning into the suggestions of this daybook and making a daily post to keep me accountable. If not now, then when?

I'm Josie. You can find out a little more about me here. Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy: by Sarah Ban Breathnach. This book is written for the Australian and NZ market because it refers to seasonal changes. It's available on Amazon here if you'd like to follow along.


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