Day 145/366 days Towards Self-Mastery.
Getting comfortable with the space in between. How quickly do we fill the spaces in our lives with talking, doing, fixing, rearranging, shifting, moving?
Feeling comfortable in the pause is something that this period with CV-19 is challenging for many. We're not used to being in that space of uncertainty, yet that space is filled with possibilities if we would only allow it.
What is it about needing to be in control of the next thing. To take charge and keep things moving.
My Masters programme in Gestalt Therapy speaks to this space in-between. In between the conversation, in between the words, in between the space between myself and the client, in between events, experiences, clients.
Getting comfortable with the space in between.
To hold that space in between requires a certain tolerance for uncertainty. A tension, an expectation, or simply allowing the next thing to reveal itself to you.
Allow space. Sit there for a while. Let your authentic self emerge to fill the space when you're ready. Or perhaps you can trust life to fill that space with the next thing.
When I moved into my new home my walls where large clean canvases, painted to perfection and as yet, with no telltale holes from where pictures might hang. Nothing, no pictures nor pieces of art had found their way there.
As I placed my furniture I began to appreciate the clear uncluttered wall spaces even more. Just a few precious pieces we hung where I would appreciate them most, and since then those walls have mostly remained uncluttered. The space there gives rest to my busy mind.
It's a skill I've also learned to apply in life. When the new day dawns I take an inventory of the things I need to, or would like to attend to do in this glorious new day, and I leave plenty of room for life to reveal itself to me. For serendipity to play its role.
Today I'll gather some research papers to explore, sometime I'll take an hour out to walk. I'll see my clients at the scheduled time and the rest of the time will be filled with and by life's possibilities.
Space, the in between, nothing as it happens, is filled with potential. Pregnant with possibilities. Bursting with inspiration waiting to come to life. Poised to expand with creativity.
Will you allow the nothingness to enrich your life?
366 days Towards Self-Mastery
When I considered my New Year's intentions for 2020 I had just one: To allow my heart to love what it loved...and let it lead me. (If not now, then when?)
I've spent months working on integrating my life. To live life more fully with my home life, my interests, my work, my responsibilities, all coming together, all connected. I want to give each the attention that they desire and need, and still have time and energy for the others. That means living and working from the heart.
As I was clearing out my bookshelf over the Christmas break I discovered Simple Abundance. I set it aside to explore it on New Year's Day as I lazed through another delicious day of nothingness. Sarah, the author, says this book is about living in grace. Living in grace I realised, is about Self-Mastery.
My thirst for understanding the human condition has driven me all my life, and hand-in-hand with self-mastery it has been a life-long goal. And seeing as I love to write, that living in grace is about self-mastery, and I love a bit of a challenge, then if I am truly going to let my heart lead, I really don't have any other choice. So scary as it feels, I'm starting out on a daily mission of leaning into the suggestions of this daybook and making a daily post to keep me accountable. If not now, then when?
I'm Josie. You can find out a little more about me here.
Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy: by Sarah Ban Breathnach.
This book is written for the Australian and NZ market because it refers to seasonal changes. It's available on Amazon here if you'd like to follow along.