You can speak honestly about your feelings without needing to protect everyone else from them. You can explore your doubts, fears, needs, hopes, and limits. You can begin to understand what belongs to the relationship, what belongs to your own history, where and how you would like to focus your therapy work, and what may need to happen next.

You do not resonate with everyone you meet, and this is also true when you meet a therapist. The relationship itself matters. The way a therapist listens, responds, explains their work, and creates a sense of safety can make a significant difference to how your therapy unfolds.

Emotional neglect is often difficult to name because it is about absence. The absence of warmth. The absence of comfort. The absence of delight. The absence of repair. The absence of attention. The absence of emotional responsiveness. You may have been fed, clothed, educated, and provided for. But emotionally, you may still have been alone.

You might delay replying. You might tell yourself you will answer later. You might feel tired before anything has even happened. You might begin thinking through everything that could go wrong. Then, perhaps, you criticise yourself. Why am I like this? Why can’t I just enjoy people? Why do ordinary friendships feel like so much work?

Counselling can support addiction recovery by helping you understand not only the addictive behaviour itself, but what sits underneath it. What pain has it helped you manage? What feelings has it helped you avoid? What needs have been unmet? What situations trigger the urge? And more...

Many people think meditation means having a quiet mind. So, when thoughts keep coming, they assume they are failing. But the mind thinks. That is what it does. Meditation is not about stopping every thought. It is more about noticing where your attention has gone, and gently returning.